Reframing

The Power of the Reframe…

There are 3 sides to every story…your side, their side and then the facts of what happened or didn’t happen…and somewhere amongst those 3 sides is what we adopt as our “truth” about the incident or the situation and then that “truth” takes on a life of its own in our experience.

We breathe life into this “truth” every, single time we re-tell the story of…

the divorce, the break-up, the betrayal, the abuse, the loss, the fight, the horrible childhood, the disappointing friends, the job that didn’t work out…you get the picture.

We literally make it alive again in our experience by the amount of times we tell it, what we call it and how we frame it currently.  Our words about it give it legs and life—it gets to keep running rampant in our present day because we KEEP TALKING ABOUT IT.

WORDS are life-giving…attention is life-giving…energy is life-giving.

Sometimes you meet people that are dragging around past experiences as if they are still true—here now—in the present.  This happens because they keep speaking these things into being.  It happens because the frame that they put around it is still the story from the past…there is no fresh perspective through a lens of what has been learned or what growth has happened.  The story and the frame are old, crusty, broken down and pathetic.  Nothing good or new happening in these scenarios.

The gift that the REFRAME gives is this—reframing starts by calling the old story by a new name…instead of ‘devastating’ it was a learning experience.  Instead of ‘a horrible divorce’ it was an opportunity to start a new chapter.  YOU HAVE THE POWER OVER YOUR LIFE.

What you call a thing it becomes, the reframe allows you to call the past something different—when you start giving it a new name it will shift your experience of it.  Positive psychology proves to us that when we are looking for the good, we see more good, when we are looking for the opportunity we encounter more opportunity…when we can have gratitude for an experience we find more things to be grateful for regarding it.

This is not about pretending that shitty stuff didn’t happen –it is about leaving the past in the past where it belongs.  Take what you need from it and move on.  Call the past experiences great lessons, look at where you are now vs. where you were when those things happened.

You can’t elevate if you stay stuck in the muck of the past—we all have things in the past that we don’t love.  Welcome to being in the human experience.

Your job now is to reframe all those things and move on into creating the future that you wish for—everything that you want is possible—you have to do the work.  Part of that work is to engage in the reframing process—begin to reframe old experiences in a new way…as you do this your feelings about these things will transform into something different.

You will feel lighter and more at peace and as that happens it will raise your energetic state which will in turn begin to attract better experiences to you.

Start by making a list of 5 experiences from the past that require a reframe and then get to work—putting new labels on them and attaching NEW stories to them.

XO,

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